25/07/2018 Four Horsemen and Emotional Intelligence

Recently I am reading this book from John M. Gottman and timely I had some moments that I felt I need to reflect on this.

In the book the author talks about Four Horsemen that ruin relationships devastatingly. And the these are the big four:

Criticism / Contempt / Defensiveness / Stonewalling

When I have or see any struggles in relationships, most of the time one of the four kicked in and it causes a lot of negative consequences. And I see this is all about Emotional Intelligence and lacking EQ is way worse than having low IQ. At the end of the day, compiling good relationships builds up true happiness. 

My action item will be to review this very useful article GGSC offers and changing my acts with knowing that I won't be able to change people but I can influence people.

Thank you for spending your time to read this.